13 Sex Questions Everyone Has Before (And After) Their First Time

16 January 2017, 16:21 | Updated: 8 May 2017, 17:09

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Nicky Idika

By Nicky Idika

*singing* Let's talk about sex babyyy....

Sex can be mysterious. Some stuff is straight forward, and some stuff you only find out after you've done the deed. And some stuff you just will never know unless you ask. 

Well, because we care about you and we want you to have a nice time, we did a little digging and turned up some of the most popular sex questions that people are dying to find out the answers to. Don't say we never told you anything useful. 

Okay, here we go. 

Questions 2

Does sex hurt? 
Sex can be painful for a lot of girls the first time around, but, obviously, to varying degrees. Pain can depend on factors like the individual and whether or not you've been sexually active in other (non-fully penetrative) ways. Sex can, however, be painful for other reasons after your first time. 

Does sex burn calories? Answer


Does sex feel good? 

Does sex cause UTI (urinary tract infections)
Short answer is that sex can cause UTIs in both men and women.

UTIs occur when bacteria enters the urinary tract so...you know.  However, UTIs can also occur in people who aren't sexually active. So, basically, the body is gonna do what the body is gonna do. 



OK, this is going well. What about... Questions 1

Is sex good for stress? 
Sex can be good for stress. The brain famously releases endorphins (feel good hormones) during intercourse that can elevate your mood. But if you're stressed out in your life I wouldn't recommend having sex as some sort of coping mechanism.    

Is sex good exercise?
Nice try, but no. As we mentioned above, the average sex session burns around 100 calories for men and 69 for women. You're going to want to burn a lot more calories than that if you want to call it exercise. 30 minutes of running burns 300 calories. Maybe go for a run? 

Is Sex and The City on Netflix? 
It's actually not, if you can imagine that.  

Is sex awkward?

Weirdly enough, sex is like any other social interaction. If you or your partner make it awkward then, guess what? It's going to be awkward. Being open about what you like and don't like and refusing to be ashamed of the most natural thing in the world will certainly cut the tension.

Now, for the lightning round...

How do you know if you're ready to have sex? 
If you feel informed, mature, and emotionally prepared to handle sex (and all the stuff that can come with it), then you're ready. No one can tell you if you're prepared. You know yourself best.  

How long is sex supposed to last? 
Honestly, how long is a piece of string? Different "strokes" for different folks. 

Can you get pregnant/get an STI the first time? 

Can you say 'no' even in the middle of sex? 

Does anything really change about you after having sex for the first time?